Managers are responsible for managing people, which means it\u2019s important that you form a relationship with your team members. But as with all relationships, sometimes you fall in love, and sometimes you simply can\u2019t stand each other.According to a 2019 study conducted by DDI, 57% of employees leave because of their manager \u2014 and at least 32% have considered it. But how many of those employees told their manager that they were leaving because of them? And if you were their manager, what would you have done to improve the situation to keep a great team member who left because of you?While we all want to be liked, getting your team members to simply like you isn\u2019t a worthy goal. Instead, when it comes to figuring out how to manage people who don\u2019t like you, you need to focus on how to get good work out of your team members, support them in their day-to-day role and help them grow within your company. This will help naturally counteract some of the feeling of tension, even if they still (unfortunately) don\u2019t like you personally.So, how do you go about managing and support a team member who doesn\u2019t like you?Recognize Your Team as IndividualsIt sounds obvious, but each team member brings individual experiences and knowledge to the company. When you understand your team members, you identify leverage points to lead them toward success.People bring three things with them:Personality: Who they are.Perspective: How they think based on their experiences.Pathology: How their challenges have shaped their instincts, perhaps negatively, and informed how they conduct themselves in their work and relationships.Their personality, perspective and pathology affect all of their interactions with people \u2014 and may differ from your own personality, perspective and pathologies. Once you recognize which of these facets drives the clash in your relationship, you can discover your point of leverage.For example, you might be an extrovert and tend to speak a mile a minute. Your team member Sally however, might be soft-spoken and pick her words like they are diamonds. You might not be a great match personality-wise \u2014 but you still need to figure out how to leverage your differences so you can work together.In this example, you should hone in on your different communication styles. You might prefer face to face interaction, but what about Sally? You should make the effort to ask about her communication preferences. If Sally, for example, prefers to communicate via Slack instead of in person so that she has time to think through what you\u2019re asking and how she\u2019s answering, you need to respect her preference. While asking about and adopting to Sally\u2019s preferred communication style might not make her like you more, it will make her feel like you\u2019ve made an effort to better understand and respect her work style.Create Opportunities for Mentorship Across Titles and DepartmentsWhen you create opportunities for your team members to show their knowledge and credibility to upper-management or older colleagues, you empower your team and build their confidence.It\u2019s a really positive experience when someone gets to share knowledge and strengths with other people. LinkedIn\u2019s 2021 Workplace Learning Report notes that they\u2019ve seen a 1,100% increase in their Learning Groups, and a 121% increase in communication between instructors and learners in course Q&As. How does that translate to your team? Easy: Your team is eager to learn from each other and their colleagues in other departments.As a manager, you want to empower your team \u2014 regardless of any tension you have with them. When you find opportunities for your team members to shine, it encourages trust: You have an eye on their goals, and can help them get to where they want to go. And bringing them together to fulfill their goals? That\u2019s teamwork.Lunch & Learns are one type of activity that builds connections and offers mentorship on a wide level. Older team members could learn about social media or how to network on LinkedIn from younger counterparts. And younger team members \u2014 whether it\u2019s age or experience \u2014 want to learn about their colleagues\u2019 career paths and journeys. Through these stories, younger team members discover what hard or soft skills they can develop to grow in their careers.Some of these mentorship opportunities may involve your team mentoring other senior or C-level managers. Don\u2019t be scared by the thought of \u201ctraining your replacement\u201d: Nurture the talent you\u2019ve been given. Empower your team members with these opportunities. Then stand back and enjoy watching them fly toward success.Connect Your Team Members to Resources Across the CompanyAs a manager, guiding your team toward viable resources helps them achieve their career goals. Our natural instinct as managers is to be that resource for our team members \u2014 but that\u2019s tough to do when your team member doesn\u2019t like you.Think about it, would you ask someone you don\u2019t like for help? Or would you try to go around them and find help elsewhere? Instead of making your team member feel like they need to sneak around you to get the support and resources they need, you should proactively explore company resources with them so they\u2019re able to build their own connections.As a bonus, when you connect your team to other managers and C-level directors, you also invest in strengthening your team members\u2019 relationship to your company.One way you can implement this is to set up skip-level meetings, where team members can connect with upper-management. Skip-level meetings are a great option, as your team gains a sense of your company\u2019s culture through the eyes of someone else. Other managers have their individual networks and resources they can provide to your team as well.Just like one-on-one meetings, skip-level meetings focus on your team member\u2019s goals. If you want feedback on your management style, you can discuss that with your manager.As you partner with your team members on creating connections, help them gather their resources through a professional development plan. Did Jenna get a course recommendation from another manager? Has your team expressed interest in a professional book club? Great! Whatever the resource and opportunity, collaborate with your team so that they have the space to work through these resources and continue their growth.Management Is About Unleashing the Power of Your TeamMaking friends at work is great, but friendship doesn\u2019t make you a great manager. We\u2019re not here to debate Niccolo Machiavelli\u2019s \u201cIt is better to be feared than loved\u201d stance, either. You don\u2019t want to strike fear into your team. Instead, you need to find ways to support everyone on your team, regardless of where you fall on their likability scale.When you consider how to manage people who don\u2019t like you, stop asking yourself \u201cHow can I make them like me?\u201d And instead focus on, \u201cHow can I support my team to bring out their best work and feel good about it?\u201d Managers act as bridges that connect their team members to valuable resources. Through these resources \u2014 and teamwork \u2014 you help unlock each team member\u2019s potential and help them grow.We understand the excitement about learning and leveling up across a company. Our Next Level One-on-Ones Course taps into your managerial skill set and provides the space to deeply consider how you can unleash your team\u2019s power. Enroll today!